101. "The main cause of the relapse of leukemia is the remaining leukemic cells' acquisition of tolerance to medicine...

... The most biggest challenge of the present leukemia treatment is to overcome this tolerance."

From "Fundamental Textbook of Leukemia" edited by Ryuzo Ohno and published by Nagai Shoten Co., Ltd.

100. "Even a healthy person will grow old someday, and time when the stairs of a station will look like a precipice to her will come."

From "Diary of A Leukemia Patient" by Shunsuke Kusama, The Tokyo Shimbun

99. "Those who have not found their true wealth are beggars."

“A beggar had been sitting by the side of a road for over thirty years. One day a stranger walked by. “Spare some change?” mumbled the beggar, mechanically holding out his old baseball cap. “I have nothing to give you,” said the stranger. Then he asked: “What’s that you are sitting on?” “Nothing,” replied the beggar. “Just an old box. I have been sitting on it for as long as I can remember.” “Ever looked inside?” asked the stranger. “No,” said the beggar. “What’s the point? There’s nothing in there.” “Have a look inside,” insisted the stranger. The beggar managed to pry open the lid. With astonishment, disbelief, and elation, he saw that the box was filled with gold.

I am that stranger who has nothing to give you and who is telling you to look inside. Not inside any box, as in the parable, but somewhere even closer: inside yourself.

“But I am not a beggar,” I can hear you say.

Those who have not found their true wealth, which is the radiant joy of Being and the deep, unshakable peace that comes with it, are beggars, even if they have great material wealth. They are looking outside for scraps of pleasure or fulfillment, for validation, security, or love, while they have a treasure within that not only includes all those things but is infinitely greater than anything the world can offer.”

From "The Power of NOW" by Eckhart Tolle, Namaste Publishing and New World Library

98. "The world will not much longer tolerate the unemployment which is inevitably associated with present-day capitalistic individualism."

"The authoritarian state systems of to-day seem to solve the problem of unemployment at the expense of efficiency and of freedom. It is certain that the world will not much longer tolerate the unemployment which, apart from brief intervals of excitement, is associated---and, in my opinion, inevitably associated---with present-day capitalistic individualism. But it may be possible by a right analysis of the problem to cure the disease whilst preserving efficiency and freedom."

From "THE GENERAL THEORY OF EMPLOYMENT, INTEREST AND MONEY" by John Maynard Keynes, BN Publishing

97. "In learning Chinese, you cannot expect progress without mastering pronunciation of the language."

"In learning Chinese, you cannot expect progress without mastering pronunciation of the language. Of course, I do not think there is any language which does not require practicing pronunciation well, but it seems that pronunciation is especially important in Chinese."

From "ABC of Pronunciation of Chinese" by Keiji Ueno, Japan Broadcast Publishing Co., Ltd.

96. "A country's economic power cannot be used as its identity."

"Asked for his impression about the inauguration speech by President Obama, Japan's then-Prime Minister said, "As the world's second-largest economy, we must cooperate with America, the world's largest economy." I think this was a typically-Japanese answer. (snip.) As a matter of course, the world economy ranking changes every year, and a country's "economic power" cannot be used as its identity index. Saying "we want to establish a strong relationship with America as the world's second-largest economy" implies that such a relationship may vary if it becomes No. 3 or No. 5. (snip.) If a musician gets asked, for example, if he wants to collaborate with another musician and if he says, "yes, as the No. 2 musician in the popularity ranking, I wanna do that," he will be laughed at as being loopy in no time."

From "The Remote and Isolated Country, Japan" by Tatsuru Uchida, SHINCHOSHA Publishing Co., Ltd.

95. "People who don't think are the last ones to listen to others."

From "1Q84 (Book 3)" by Haruki Murakami, Shinchosha Publishing Co., Ltd.

94. "I think nothing will come out of a non-committal relationship between a man and a woman."

"I love to seriously fall in love with my boy. I think nothing will come out of a non-committal relationship between a man and a woman. When I see boys and girls who yearn for cool, hip, trendy love affairs and say,"I want to go light," I have nothing left to say except, "Please do so." The juicy parts of life belong to serious lovers only, don't they?"

From "PON CHAN IS COMING 2U!" written by Amy Yamada and published by Kadokawa Group Publishing Co.,Ltd.

93. "When a parent tells a child or adolescent a secret about the marriage, that's colluding."

"Parents' sex lives, financial worries, the secrets they tell each other when they're depressed, are not the children's business. When a parent tells a child or adolescent a secret about the marriage, that's colluding. It may make the child feel special, more grown-up, but it's actually using the child for some selfish purpose--to gain an ally, to gain sympathy, to fight loneliness--which is ultimately damaging to the child's self-esteem."

From "Undoing Depression" by Richard O'Connor, Ph.D., Berkley Books, New York.

92. "The crucial thing is to think how to empower her staffs, and to execute it."

"Unlike the president of a company, employees do not necessarily think about work throughout 24 hours, and do not necessarily do what she expects.

If she is a super-salesperson, her company may achieve maximum sales of 200 million yen annually, but it will not see one-billion-yen sales. The crucial thing for her at this moment is to think how to empower her staffs, and to execute it."

From "Salesforce.com - The Symbol of Cloud Computing" written by Munechika Nishida and published by Impress Japan Corporation

91. "A humidifier can put a little moisture into dry winter air...

... But change the water daily and keep the unit clean, as it can breed bacteria and other germs."

From "How to Care for Aging Parents" by Virginia Morris, Workman Publishing, New York

90. "Statistics are like a bikini. What they reveal is suggestive, but what they conceal is vital."

""Statistics are like a bikini. What they reveal is suggestive, but what they conceal is vital.” – Aaron Levenstein. Remember that as you dive deeper, wiser words were never uttered about statistics."

From "Web Analytics" by Avinash Kaushik, Wiley Publishing, Inc.

89. "If there are particular individuals in your life who are predictable problems,...

... you can practice methods that are custom designed for responding to them.

From "Your Perfect Right" by Robert Alberti, Ph.D., and Michael Emmons, Ph.D., Impact Publishers, Atascadero, California

88. "Few drug studies include truly old patients."

"Drugs that work well in younger patients might not be appropriate for older patients (and, unfortunately, few drug studies include truly old patients.)"

From "How to Care for Aging Parents" by Virginia Morris, Workman Publishing, New York

87. "Remember that you are responsible for your own feelings..."

"... You can choose your emotional responses by the way you look at situations. As psychologists Gary McKay and Don Dinkmeyer put it, How You Feel Is Up to You."

From "Your Perfect Right" by Robert Alberti, Ph.D. and Michael Emmons, Ph.D., Impact Publishers, Atascadero, California

86. "Idea democracy."

"In the past, the idea from the person with the biggest title won. Now with (Website experimentation and) testing, it is much cheaper to have a bunch of good ideas and for a very low cost (time and dollars) simply put the ideas out there and let the customers tell us which ones are best. You have the same opportunity as your company founder or head designer or newest expensive cool Marketer/Analyst/MBA to put your crazy thought on the site. How cool is that! Idea democracy."

From "Web Analytics—AN HOUR A DAY" by Avinash Kaushik, Wiley Publishing, Inc.

85. "Ageism—prejudice against old people—is rampant."

"Ageism—prejudice against old people—is rampant, even among doctors, social workers, and other professionals who routinely deal with the elderly. They expect old people to be frail, confused, depressed, and incontinent, so they don’t do anything to change the situation. They fail to treat ailments or address loneliness or worries. What does he expect at his age?

Of course, many of the ailments, as well as some of the physical and mental decline, that are common in old age can be treated. And at any age, patients deserve respect and serious attention to their medical problems.

Beware of ageism in yourself, in others and even in your parent, who may feel that he is just a worthless old man. Encourage him to get proper medical care, to do the things he loves, to make friends and pursue hobbies. Your parent should do all this despite his age—and perhaps because of it."

From "How to Care for Aging Parents" by Virginia Morris, Workman Publishing, New York

84. "My brother refused to believe that my mother had dementia."

"My brother refused to believe that my mother had dementia. I would tell him specific things that she did and how impossible things were becoming, but he always came up with an excuse for her. And then he would tell me that I was the one with the problem, that I was being overprotective.

I brought Mom to his house one Saturday. I knew that the only way he would realize what was happening was if he saw it for himself, if he spent some real time with her. When we arrived, I told him that I had to go out of town and left Mom with him for the night. I didn’t give him an out.

When I came back for her the next day, he took one look at me, and for the first time in my life, I saw my brother cry. It was very sad, and I felt sorry for him. I understood—he really hadn’t wanted to see it. But I had to do it. I needed his help and his support. I couldn’t handle it alone any longer.

--Terry B."

From "How to Care for Aging Parents" by Virginia Morris, Workman Publishing, New York

83. "Happiness is not a gift someone else can give you."

"Successful relationships don't just happen, they take work. Happiness is not a gift someone else can give you, it's not even something you can get for yourself, it just happens as a byproduct of living well. Living well usually doesn't mean taking the easy way out."

From "Undoing Depression" by Richard O'Connor, Ph.D.

82. "Drop it. And try to be understanding and forgiving."

"At some point, however, you need to stop wasting your breath. If a sibling absolutely will not help no matter how you plead, this is his or her decision. Your sister might not be able to accept that your parent is sic or dying. Or your brother might have such a complex and painful relationship with your father that he can’t begin to deal with any of this. Or maybe your sibling is terribly busy with other things, or simply self-involved. Drop it. And try to be understanding and forgiving. Your sibling has his reasons—one that you may never understand—and, in the end, he will have to live with this decision. Let go of it; move on to more productive tasks."

From "How to Care for Aging Parents" by Virginia Morris, Workman Publishing, New York

81. "To Exist is To Resist"

From "To Exist is To Resist (Esistere e' resitere)" translated by Myths America. You can read this powerful Italian poem and its beautiful English translation at http://mythsamerica.blogspot.com/2010/02/italian-poem-translation-esistere-e.html.

80. "Remember, you are not responsible for everyone's happiness."

From "How to Care for Aging Parents" by Virginia Morris, Workman Publishing, New York

79. "Am I making myself clear to you?"

"Am I understanding you? Am I making myself clear to you? The technique of repeating back what the other person has said ("I hear you saying that you're dissapointed I wanted to leave the party early"), while it sounds so simple-minded it's subject to caricature, is the place to start. It's really an excercise in developing empathy."

From "Undoing Depression" by Richard O'Connor, Ph.D., Berkley Books, New York

78. "Projection and projective identification are defenses that can be used by anyone, depressed or not."

"Projection and projective identification are defenses that can be used by anyone, depressed or not. And they are especially likely to be evoked in close relationships, because intimacy, though good for us, is scary—we fear being engulfed, dominated, controlled. People with depression are likely to take their own bad feelings about themselves and project the feelings onto the people who care about them. The depressed husband who has lost his job doesn’t believe his wife really means her words of comfort and reassurance; he doubts his own worth but defends against this doubt by attributing it to her. After enough rejection, she stops trying to make him feel better, and he is reinforced in his belief that she doesn’t care about him."

From "Undoing Depression" by Richard O'Connor, Ph.D., Berkley Books, New York

77. "Expecting the spouse to read one's mind is just unfair and silly."

"It seems natural to expect that those close to us understand us perfectly. But it is a wish that grown-ups must abondon. One of the points that marriage counselors have to make is that expecting the spouse to read one's mind is just unfair and silly. If you don't communicate it, you can't blame your partner for not understanding it.

Many of the techniques described earlier as assertiveness skills will help prevent ambiguous communication...

... unambiguous communication can become almost second nature as we practice and it becomes rewarded by greater levels of intimacy and satisfaction in relationships."

From "Undoing Depression" by Richard O'Connor, Ph.D., Berkley Books, New York

76. "Content is lyrics, process is music."

"The content of a conversation is what we talk about; the process is how we conduct the talking. Content is lyrics, process is music. Which is it that most directly speaks to feelings? From the point of view of feelings, process, like music, goes directly to our soul, while content must be analyzed intellectually. If we feel listened to and respected, we can take a rebuff. If we feel dismissed or patronized, even if we get our way, we’re likely to be dissatisfied.

Shifting the focus of the conversation from content to process can be a very effective way of resolving communication problems. When my wife asks what I want for dinner, pasta or chicken, and I say I don’t care, what I’m often missing is that she’s asking for a little companionship, a little mutual ownership of a decision. If I say, "Chicken sounds good," but say it with a "Don’t interrupt me" attitude, I’m still dismissing her, event though I’ve answered her question. She will feel diminished (and I’ll feel guilty, even if I’m not consciously aware of it). What she can do is say, "Don’t ignore me like that," or "It wouldn’t hurt you to take your nose out of your book for a minute" – shifting from content to process, letting me know that I’ve been rude, letting me know that she just needs a reasonable amount of attention."

From "Undoing Depression" by Richard O’Connor, Ph.D., Berkley Books, New York

75. "Consider incentives only as a last resort."

"For most website or post-visit surveys, the best practice is not to provide incentives. Customers want to share their experiences on your website and let you know how you can improve it for them. Incentives usually skew that data because the incentive becomes the motivation, and this usually reduces the quality of the data. It is also harder to detect the pollution in the data. If you don’t have enough respondents, try to optimize the questions, structure, and triggers. Consider incentives only as a last resort."

From “Web Analytics – An Hour a Day” by Avinash Kaushik, Sybex

74. "You really have no right to deny another person's perception of you."

"Saying thank you is difficult for some people...

Accepting compliments -- receiving very supportive statements directed toward you, or about you to a third person -- is perhaps an even more challenging task, particularly difficult if you are not feeling good about yourself...

Think about it: you really have no right to deny another person's perception of you. If you say, "Oh, you just caught me on a good day!" or "It wasn't anything special" or "It was an accident that it turned out well," you have in effect said the compliment giver has poor judgment. It is as if you told that person, "You're wrong!" Try to allow everyone the right to feelings; if they are positive toward you, do others -- and yourself -- the courtesy of accepting.

You don't have to go around praising youself or taking credit for achievements that are not your own. However, when another person sincererly wishes to convey a positive comment about you, allow the expression without rejection or qualification. Try saying at the least, "It's hard for me to accept that, but thank you," or better yet simply, "That feels good" or "I like to hear that.""

From "Your Perfect Right" by Robert Alberti, Ph.D., and Michael Emmons, Ph.D., Impact Publishers, Atascadero, California

73. "... research suggests that a third of smoke detectors had dead or missing batteries.

... They should be checked at least every couple of months."

From "How to Care for Aging Parents" by Virginia Morris, Workman Publishing, New York

72. "The next time your father drifts back several decades and tells you stories you've heard before,...

... rather than shaking your head in resignation or despair, encourage him to tell more. He's doing something that's enormously healng. Reminiscing allows him to review his life, think through important issues, see his accomplishments, let go of his regrets. It also returns him, temporarily, to a time when he was younger, stronger, more confident, and more capable."

From "How To Care for Aging Parents" by Virginia Morris, Workman Publishing, New York

71. "Include your parent, whenever possible, in family activities."

"Include your parent, whenever possible, in family activities. Even if she can't actually participate, she should be there. Or, if she can't be there, let her know that she is wanted, and then take a video of the event for her to watch later. And be sure she has plenty of family photos around her, wherever she lives."

From "How to Care for Aging Parents" by Virginia Morris, Workman Publishing, New York

70. "Any sort of contact is better than none."

"Sit with your parent. Talk about old times. Tell her what's happening in your life. If you are far away, or nearby but busy (or close and not busy, but don't like spending time with your parent), call or e-mail as often as you can. Any sort of contact is better than non. Tell her what's happening with various family members and old friends--Michael just got his braces off, Tammy has a new boyfriend, Brian is applying for a new job, old Ted Wollman finally sold his apartment. Give her all the details, however mundane they might seem."

From "How to Care for Aging Parents" by Virginia Morris, Workman Publishing, New York

69. "Now we're writing again, and that's great."

"Not so many years ago, e-mail was brand new. When it first came out, many teachers and writers were concerned that the informal way people write e-mails would have a bad effect on people's writing in general. However, before e-mail, people rarely wrote letters and almost always used the phone to communicate with each other. Now we're writing again, and that's great."

From "Painless Grammar" by Rebecca Elliott, Ph.D., Barron's Educational Series, Inc.

68. "What is the difference between the way students write and the way professionas write?"

"What is the difference between the way students write and the way professionas write?

Easy question--here is the difference:

Average student: write it, hand it in

Above-average student: write it, edit it, rewrite it, hand it in

Exceptional student: write it, edit it, rewrite it, edit it, rewrite it, hand it in

Professional writer: write it, edit it, rewrite it, edit it, rewrite it, edit it, rewrite it, edit it, rewrite it, edit it, rewrite it, hand it in

Good writing is 20 percent inspiration and 80 percent cleanup."


From "Painless Grammar" by Rebecca Elliott, Ph.D., published by Barron's Educational Series, Inc.

67. "Even worse than lots of exclamation points are double exclamation points!!"

"Some people use exclamation points all the time! Every single sentence is so excited it jumps for joy! Nothing looks sillier than a paragraph like this! Even worse than lots of exclamation points are--oh, no, not those!!--double exclamation points!! In formal writing, never (and I do mean never!!) use double exclamation points! In fact, don't use many exclamation points at all. Not every sentence you write is exciting enough to deserve an exclamation point, and too many make your reader tired."

From "Painless Grammar" by Rebecca Elliott, Ph.D., published by Barron's Educational Series, Inc.