86. "Idea democracy."

"In the past, the idea from the person with the biggest title won. Now with (Website experimentation and) testing, it is much cheaper to have a bunch of good ideas and for a very low cost (time and dollars) simply put the ideas out there and let the customers tell us which ones are best. You have the same opportunity as your company founder or head designer or newest expensive cool Marketer/Analyst/MBA to put your crazy thought on the site. How cool is that! Idea democracy."

From "Web Analytics—AN HOUR A DAY" by Avinash Kaushik, Wiley Publishing, Inc.

85. "Ageism—prejudice against old people—is rampant."

"Ageism—prejudice against old people—is rampant, even among doctors, social workers, and other professionals who routinely deal with the elderly. They expect old people to be frail, confused, depressed, and incontinent, so they don’t do anything to change the situation. They fail to treat ailments or address loneliness or worries. What does he expect at his age?

Of course, many of the ailments, as well as some of the physical and mental decline, that are common in old age can be treated. And at any age, patients deserve respect and serious attention to their medical problems.

Beware of ageism in yourself, in others and even in your parent, who may feel that he is just a worthless old man. Encourage him to get proper medical care, to do the things he loves, to make friends and pursue hobbies. Your parent should do all this despite his age—and perhaps because of it."

From "How to Care for Aging Parents" by Virginia Morris, Workman Publishing, New York

84. "My brother refused to believe that my mother had dementia."

"My brother refused to believe that my mother had dementia. I would tell him specific things that she did and how impossible things were becoming, but he always came up with an excuse for her. And then he would tell me that I was the one with the problem, that I was being overprotective.

I brought Mom to his house one Saturday. I knew that the only way he would realize what was happening was if he saw it for himself, if he spent some real time with her. When we arrived, I told him that I had to go out of town and left Mom with him for the night. I didn’t give him an out.

When I came back for her the next day, he took one look at me, and for the first time in my life, I saw my brother cry. It was very sad, and I felt sorry for him. I understood—he really hadn’t wanted to see it. But I had to do it. I needed his help and his support. I couldn’t handle it alone any longer.

--Terry B."

From "How to Care for Aging Parents" by Virginia Morris, Workman Publishing, New York

83. "Happiness is not a gift someone else can give you."

"Successful relationships don't just happen, they take work. Happiness is not a gift someone else can give you, it's not even something you can get for yourself, it just happens as a byproduct of living well. Living well usually doesn't mean taking the easy way out."

From "Undoing Depression" by Richard O'Connor, Ph.D.

82. "Drop it. And try to be understanding and forgiving."

"At some point, however, you need to stop wasting your breath. If a sibling absolutely will not help no matter how you plead, this is his or her decision. Your sister might not be able to accept that your parent is sic or dying. Or your brother might have such a complex and painful relationship with your father that he can’t begin to deal with any of this. Or maybe your sibling is terribly busy with other things, or simply self-involved. Drop it. And try to be understanding and forgiving. Your sibling has his reasons—one that you may never understand—and, in the end, he will have to live with this decision. Let go of it; move on to more productive tasks."

From "How to Care for Aging Parents" by Virginia Morris, Workman Publishing, New York

81. "To Exist is To Resist"

From "To Exist is To Resist (Esistere e' resitere)" translated by Myths America. You can read this powerful Italian poem and its beautiful English translation at http://mythsamerica.blogspot.com/2010/02/italian-poem-translation-esistere-e.html.

80. "Remember, you are not responsible for everyone's happiness."

From "How to Care for Aging Parents" by Virginia Morris, Workman Publishing, New York