85. "Ageism—prejudice against old people—is rampant."

"Ageism—prejudice against old people—is rampant, even among doctors, social workers, and other professionals who routinely deal with the elderly. They expect old people to be frail, confused, depressed, and incontinent, so they don’t do anything to change the situation. They fail to treat ailments or address loneliness or worries. What does he expect at his age?

Of course, many of the ailments, as well as some of the physical and mental decline, that are common in old age can be treated. And at any age, patients deserve respect and serious attention to their medical problems.

Beware of ageism in yourself, in others and even in your parent, who may feel that he is just a worthless old man. Encourage him to get proper medical care, to do the things he loves, to make friends and pursue hobbies. Your parent should do all this despite his age—and perhaps because of it."

From "How to Care for Aging Parents" by Virginia Morris, Workman Publishing, New York